Well, shit...

"Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing." (granfury)
05/01/2019 at 20:03 • Filed to: None

My friend is finally out of the hospital.

She’s out of the hospital, yes, but in hospice and not at home. It’s only a matter of time now and I need to get over there to see her ASAP. I don’t have a day off until a week from now and we’re short staffed, but I think it’s more important that I go see her.

This is the first time I’m having to deal with the loss of a friend in this manner. I’ve had friends die in accidents, but this experience is new to me. As I get older I guess I’m going to have to deal with this more frequently but that doesn’t make it any easier...

DISCUSSION (12)

Kiltedpadre > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 20:18

Definitely go and see her. If your boss is a decent human being he will completely understand and encourage you to take the time in spite of being short staffed.

I’ve spent far more time around hospice than I care to remember, but still wish I’d gone more when I had the chance. Take every moment you can.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 20:23

One of my best friends growing up had his dad pass away while we were in college after an accident at work landed hijm in the hospital. My friend hesitated about going to see his own dad and I had to tell him “You go, I’ll deal with whoever decides to give you shit”. And covered for his part in a physics project we had. Sadly, his father ended up passing a few hours after he got to the hospital, but at least he got to say his goodbyes with family and friends.

SO just go. Find a friend or someone you trust who will shut down the BS. I didn’t encounter a single ounce of pushback once I pulled out “Someone close is dying/died in the hospital. It’s going to be a few days. Get over it. ” And everyone else did and the world marched on. So go do it and deal with the rest of the consequences later.

boredalways > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 20:24

Just get up and go ASAP. Ask your boss for forgiveness later.

Just Jeepin' > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 20:26

Go.

facw > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 20:26

You should go. Your work should understand and accommodate .

WilliamsSW > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 20:33

Go. You’ll never regret going.

Good chance you’d regret not going.

Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing. > Kiltedpadre
05/01/2019 at 21:45

She’s a co-worker, so I wonder how many current and former employees I’ll run into. But it doesn’t matter - I’ll take the heat that comes from any fallout. She and I are close and people know that, so I think I’ll be forgiven. It’s not like I’m in the best of shape right now, and it’s a minor miracle of I can get a full work week in these days so it’s almost a surprise when I make it in. If I call off tomorrow I don't think anyone would be surprised.

OPPOsaurus WRX > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 21:56

i think i missed e pisode 1 of this story, which apparently contained everything....

shop-teacher > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 22:06

Definitely go.

and 100 more > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 22:11

I think you know what to do. Speaking from experience, don’t hesitate, don’t second guess. You can undo a lot of mistakes, but you can’t reverse time. Go be a light for her while you can.

Peace to you and your friend.

wafflesnfalafel > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/01/2019 at 22:42

D o it - if you don’t you know you will regret it later. Then go find a nice long straight stretch of road and wind it out.

pip bip - choose Corrour > Full of the sound of the Gran Fury, signifying nothing.
05/02/2019 at 04:20

call in sick to work and see her at once